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Spydeyrch
There IS a difference ..... but my wife doesn't think so. 
So the other day a strange thing happened.
I called my dad to get some info on our family reunion at the end of this month. It is being held in Utah, just south of Salt Lake City. Being the opportunistic person that I am, I thought: "Hhhmmmmm, what a perfect opportunity to go fishing in some awesome fly fishing waters!"
So, as I was talking to my dad, we determined that there is nothing, absolutely nothing, planned for Thursday. We are arriving on Wednesday and the family reunion is Friday & Saturday. Plus we will still be there Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday. So we discussed going fishing on Thursday. He doesn't really fish too well and even says that he is horrible at it. But he hasn't ever fly fished so I am hoping that he will enjoy it.
Anywho, my wife over heard us. I had gone to our bathroom and closed the door to get some peace and quite to discuss the plans with my dad. I didn't want my wife and kids to over hear me yet at that point because it was just "Hey do you think this is possible?" kind of talk. It wasn't "Hey, we are going to do this and it is planned and nothing is going to prevent us from doing it!" kind of talk. It was just a light discussion.
Well, when my wife found out, she approached me and said that she doesn't think it would be a good idea for me to go fishing because we are out there for a family reunion and not for fishing. I understood her point of view but I also saw my point of view, which was: We are going to be in the area since Wednesday. The family reunion doesn't start until Friday and lasts until Saturday. We don't have anything planned for that first Thursday. And we will be around until the following Tuesday. So why shouldn't I have a few hours to go fishing with my dad and brother?
Her response was: Because you just went saturday last week. You went Tuesday of last week. You went on memorial day a few weeks ago. You have fished more than enough to last for several months. :shock: This is starting to become an obsession!!
Now, I am not bashing on my wife, no. I take her input seriously and it is important to me to understand where she is coming from and why she sees things the way she does. But that doesn't mean that I agree with her all the time. But I thought for a few days about if I truly was obsessed with fishing, primarily fly fishing.
Was I obsessed? How could I determine if I was or wasn't? If I was, what should I do about it? So I decided to go to the dictionary and start there.
The dictionary defines obsessed as:
–adjective
1.
having an obsession (usually followed by with or by ): He is obsessed with eliminating guilt.
2.
having or displaying signs of an obsession: The audiophile entered the record store wearing an obsessed smile.
It also defines obsession as:
–noun
1.
the domination of one's thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image, desire, etc.
2.
the idea, image, desire, feeling, etc., itself.
3.
the state of being obsessed.
So after I read those definitions, I was a little startled because it seemed to me that my wife was right and maybe I really was obsessed.
Until ........ I was talking to a friend and he was talking about the things he likes to do and he used the word passionate!!!! That was it!! Was I really passionate about fly fishing and really obsessed? I had to check the definition to determine if it applied to me or not. :think:
The dictionary define passionate as:
–adjective
1.
having, compelled by, or ruled by intense emotion or strong feeling; fervid: a passionate advocate of socialism.
2.
expressing, showing, or marked by intense or strong feeling; emotional: passionate language.
The dictionary also defines passion as:
–noun
1.
any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.
2.
strong amorous feeling or desire; love; ardor.
That was it!!! I found the answer for my wife!! I am not obsessed with fly fishing, I am passionate about it!! There IS a difference!!!:dance::clap: I felt like I had found my defense and it was a good one, at least in my mind's eye it was.
Now if only I can convince my wife of the same. ray:
-Spydey
P.S. This was meant to be comical, true, but comical.
So the other day a strange thing happened.
I called my dad to get some info on our family reunion at the end of this month. It is being held in Utah, just south of Salt Lake City. Being the opportunistic person that I am, I thought: "Hhhmmmmm, what a perfect opportunity to go fishing in some awesome fly fishing waters!"
So, as I was talking to my dad, we determined that there is nothing, absolutely nothing, planned for Thursday. We are arriving on Wednesday and the family reunion is Friday & Saturday. Plus we will still be there Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday. So we discussed going fishing on Thursday. He doesn't really fish too well and even says that he is horrible at it. But he hasn't ever fly fished so I am hoping that he will enjoy it.
Anywho, my wife over heard us. I had gone to our bathroom and closed the door to get some peace and quite to discuss the plans with my dad. I didn't want my wife and kids to over hear me yet at that point because it was just "Hey do you think this is possible?" kind of talk. It wasn't "Hey, we are going to do this and it is planned and nothing is going to prevent us from doing it!" kind of talk. It was just a light discussion.
Well, when my wife found out, she approached me and said that she doesn't think it would be a good idea for me to go fishing because we are out there for a family reunion and not for fishing. I understood her point of view but I also saw my point of view, which was: We are going to be in the area since Wednesday. The family reunion doesn't start until Friday and lasts until Saturday. We don't have anything planned for that first Thursday. And we will be around until the following Tuesday. So why shouldn't I have a few hours to go fishing with my dad and brother?
Her response was: Because you just went saturday last week. You went Tuesday of last week. You went on memorial day a few weeks ago. You have fished more than enough to last for several months. :shock: This is starting to become an obsession!!
Now, I am not bashing on my wife, no. I take her input seriously and it is important to me to understand where she is coming from and why she sees things the way she does. But that doesn't mean that I agree with her all the time. But I thought for a few days about if I truly was obsessed with fishing, primarily fly fishing.
Was I obsessed? How could I determine if I was or wasn't? If I was, what should I do about it? So I decided to go to the dictionary and start there.
The dictionary defines obsessed as:
–adjective
1.
having an obsession (usually followed by with or by ): He is obsessed with eliminating guilt.
2.
having or displaying signs of an obsession: The audiophile entered the record store wearing an obsessed smile.
It also defines obsession as:
–noun
1.
the domination of one's thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image, desire, etc.
2.
the idea, image, desire, feeling, etc., itself.
3.
the state of being obsessed.
So after I read those definitions, I was a little startled because it seemed to me that my wife was right and maybe I really was obsessed.
Until ........ I was talking to a friend and he was talking about the things he likes to do and he used the word passionate!!!! That was it!! Was I really passionate about fly fishing and really obsessed? I had to check the definition to determine if it applied to me or not. :think:
The dictionary define passionate as:
–adjective
1.
having, compelled by, or ruled by intense emotion or strong feeling; fervid: a passionate advocate of socialism.
2.
expressing, showing, or marked by intense or strong feeling; emotional: passionate language.
The dictionary also defines passion as:
–noun
1.
any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.
2.
strong amorous feeling or desire; love; ardor.
That was it!!! I found the answer for my wife!! I am not obsessed with fly fishing, I am passionate about it!! There IS a difference!!!:dance::clap: I felt like I had found my defense and it was a good one, at least in my mind's eye it was.
Now if only I can convince my wife of the same.
ray:-Spydey
P.S. This was meant to be comical, true, but comical.
